Need or Want?

Some people say they need their loved when. They say things such as “if I lost you, I would kill myself.” They think their being sweet and endearing but those type of things are not very wise to say at all. Things like “what would I do without you.” “I can’t live without you.” ETC, are very trapping words to say. It makes the other person feel as though they have to be there and sometimes this causes our fight or flight mode to kick in. Instead try saying things like “I appreciate you being with me.”Or “I want you in my life and I love you.” These are not only positive and encouraging compliments but they let the other know being with you is a choice and not a command. Try it!

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