In A Different Way
Many parents have their way of doing things...I propose we do things In A Different Way
here are some ways parents DO their things
The "Empowerment" Way
1. Because I can, because I said so
The "Comparison" Way
2. So and So would never do that! Why can't you be like (name here).
The "Simple" Way
3. your grounded. I'm taking your phone! Go to your room! Tell your dad (tell your mom)
These ways can work (they often do, ask any parent!) but we aren't here to do it the EASY way, we're here to teach our kids. The truth is...some kids don't learn from the Easy Way but most parents aren't willing to try any other way. They use excuses like "it worked for them...it works on my other kid(s). They just don't take the time. Then parents are left wondering "why do my kids never listen?" The problem is that kids aren't being taught. Sure, these methods work a lot but that doesn't guaranteed that every kid will react the same to it. It's like teaching kids...if you're a teacher you should know this!! Most kids are not going to learn at the same pace or in the same way. They may be in the same CLASS but not learning with the same PLAN. That is because each kid is different so their brain reacts differently to certain things. People use things like spanking or time outs for every child and for every thing they do wrong. They think "this child responded well so it must work for all of them" without thinking that each is different. It has become a "regular" discipline tool. What about in the class room? Would you pick one method of curriculum that seems to work well to use for everyone? Probably not, but why wouldn't you? The answer is simple and it should be the same for parenting (teaching) your own kids. Parenting has gained a new definition by the world. Parenting = empowerment (power). But in reality, Parenting =teaching. It's not the special thing that lets you tell your kids what they can or cant do, but it's the tool that enables you to (teach) them what they should and shouldn't do. Your goal is to protect them right? Don't lose sight of that cause that's when they begin getting out of (control). Keep yourself well and they will be well.
here are some ways parents DO their things
The "Empowerment" Way
1. Because I can, because I said so
The "Comparison" Way
2. So and So would never do that! Why can't you be like (name here).
The "Simple" Way
3. your grounded. I'm taking your phone! Go to your room! Tell your dad (tell your mom)
These ways can work (they often do, ask any parent!) but we aren't here to do it the EASY way, we're here to teach our kids. The truth is...some kids don't learn from the Easy Way but most parents aren't willing to try any other way. They use excuses like "it worked for them...it works on my other kid(s). They just don't take the time. Then parents are left wondering "why do my kids never listen?" The problem is that kids aren't being taught. Sure, these methods work a lot but that doesn't guaranteed that every kid will react the same to it. It's like teaching kids...if you're a teacher you should know this!! Most kids are not going to learn at the same pace or in the same way. They may be in the same CLASS but not learning with the same PLAN. That is because each kid is different so their brain reacts differently to certain things. People use things like spanking or time outs for every child and for every thing they do wrong. They think "this child responded well so it must work for all of them" without thinking that each is different. It has become a "regular" discipline tool. What about in the class room? Would you pick one method of curriculum that seems to work well to use for everyone? Probably not, but why wouldn't you? The answer is simple and it should be the same for parenting (teaching) your own kids. Parenting has gained a new definition by the world. Parenting = empowerment (power). But in reality, Parenting =teaching. It's not the special thing that lets you tell your kids what they can or cant do, but it's the tool that enables you to (teach) them what they should and shouldn't do. Your goal is to protect them right? Don't lose sight of that cause that's when they begin getting out of (control). Keep yourself well and they will be well.
Beautifully written! Couldn't have said it better myself. This is so true and honestly sad that not many recognize this truth:( Please if you are reading this, don't just ignore it or say it isn't true...every parent needs to learn this before they get it wrong.
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